Little Lady doesn’t have a Valentine…
She’ll probably be okay without one for a while. I could take the time to bash Valentine’s Day and call it another card holiday that has no real meaning.(How many holidays have real meanings) However, I really like Valentine’s Day, it’s a celebration of love and candy.(I LOVE candy). While in college I actually celebrated Valentine’s Day each year by recording a song with my good friend and creating a YouTube video collage of submitted photos from people. I’ve also been known to go all out for my wife on the day also, between extravagant gifts, and uber-mushy-thoughtful rendezvous. I have nothing against the holiday at all. So with the day here(and an extra lady in my life) I wanted to take the time to really dwell on if I should or should not be my daughter’s valentine.
First things first, none of this has to do with an Electra complex or reverse Oedipus or anything weird like that. However, I do believe some type of psychological things come into play. There are a lot of people that involve their children in Valentine’s day with issues and complexes like these, but I’m not educated enough on mental health to delve into that conversation.(Nor do I want to)
One thing I love about being a father with a daughter is that it starts conversations like these, that I am sure need to be had. This is how my conversation and topic started:
I was walking through McCarran International Airport with a pregnant wife. Recently finding out our due date was February 12 we started discussing having children close to holidays. I’m the type of guy that believes in all things fair and extra/separate presents.( I see you Bryce). I told my wife luckily I won’t have that problem yet, because Little Lady won’t be my valentine, just her. She didn’t agree(she never does).
I’m sure some of you are like my wife or have your own reasons for why your children are your Valentines. I have no problem with you and I’m not claiming that you are incorrect. I would actually love to hear them in the comments section.
Little Lady isn’t getting less love. I love her everyday, I show her daily and she has several special holidays during the year that is exclusive to our love. I’ve ordained on this Hallmark holiday an exclusivity to my wife.
Don’t misquote me, when the time comes, I will help her sign and pick Valentine’s cards for her classmates. ( I may even help her select the special one, with the best candy too) I will post any V-Day art projects she crafts on the fridge and in my office. And of course I will grab her some 75% candy on February 15th when she ask.(We LOVE candy)
Having a daughter has extremely advanced my wanting and willingness to learn about women. I grew up with 6 older sisters, between them and my mother, me and Pops were pretty outnumbered. I’m extremely grateful about my upbringing and having them around to ask for guidance now. I understand that seeing an example of how I spoil her mother each year on this day will combat any of the “she needs to understand how a man should treat her on this holiday” remarks. Children often learn from emulation, and I’m not depriving her of that, if anything I’m giving her a better lesson. It’s also the way I learned. My father never gave my sisters(or me) valentine’s gifts, but he also taught me how to treat your Queen, and your Princess(es) pretty stellar.
One day,(36 years from today) on this date a prince charming will be doing all the spoiling she needs, and I will be watching(with my weapon.) Just. In. Case.
Happy Valentine's Day Ya'll!